Tips on Choosing A Therapist

Choosing a therapist is all about finding someone who is the right fit, and who you’re comfortable pursuing treatment with. For some, this means someone of a specific gender identity. Similar identities may also help build trust quicker than two people of different identities depending on their past experiences and trauma. However, there is no simple experience in growing up and experiencing the world (no matter your identity) - so it has no direct effect on the type of treatment a therapist can provide to any individual.

It’s important to consider and understand that a well-trained, qualified, empathetic therapist does not have to be exactly like you to establish connection and care about you. If you are choosing to seek a therapist of a specific gender identity, consider; why is the therapist’s gender important to you? It could be an unconscious gender bias because you believe only someone of the same gender identity can truly understand you.

For example, it may help to build a safe and trusting relationship with a male psychologist if you have had a hard time doing so and vice versa. One of the biggest determining factors, if therapy will be successful, is how well an individual is able to connect with their therapist. At the end of the day, it all comes down to your own comfort level - and seeking out a therapist that creates and maintains a healthy and safe space for your needs.

If you find yourself needing a new viewpoint or approach, you can always consider a therapist of a different gender identity should you feel comfortable enough to. You may have new breakthroughs and developments you never thought possible. It is about finding a balance between these two extremes. Take a deep breath, take stock of where you are in the present moment, stay patient, and ride the winds as best you can right now. Just like a hot air balloon crew on the ground, if you need help and advice, a psychologist is just a call away. ⁠

Harrison Orpe
Registered Provisional Psychologist